There are so many articles and books on handling fear. It can be frightening to just consider the overwhelming amount of tips, wisdom and material on the subject!
Here are the 4 Best Tips I use around FEAR in my Life:
- The habits to better handle FEAR in a positive way are a practice, not an event
- Regularly pick something scary to do
- How to pick something scary to tackle for yourself
- Review and reflect on the scary things you’ve already tackled head-on
Let’s dive a bit more into each of these to help you understand how to apply it in your life …
The habits to better handle FEAR in a positive way are a practice, not an event
I know some disagree and will say things like “Conquer FEAR forever with this tip!”.
I respectfully disagree. The fear response is built into our human DNA, so I have no false illusion I’ll “remove” it completely. I focus instead on how best to handle it, use it for my personal growth journey and as a signal.
Regularly pick something scary to do
This is part of my fear-handling process: picking something scary to do AT LEAST once a day, 5 or 6 days a week. It’s less about perfection with this habit and more about keeping it up front & visible for me. The intention is to regularly choose to do this so that you’re always growing and stretching what’s possible for you. I remind myself regularly that my next level of growth is JUST past where my current comfort zone & fears have me fenced in.
How to pick something scary to tackle for yourself
When I’m choosing something scary to pick for myself to tackle next, I review to make sure ALL of the following are true:
- It’s at least a little scary to me right here, right now
- Though scary, the thought of doing “the thing” also excites me on a couple of levels
- Doing “the thing” is still in alignment with my priorities, goals and values
- I’ve thought about & accepted what the worse outcome of it might be … and it’s still worth doing
Review and reflect on the scary things you’ve already tackled head-on
If you already use a journal, then either daily or weekly reflections on the most recent scary things tackled is a great practice:
- At the time, it helps you record the specifics of the success that day that you created
- Over time, it allows you to see the overall progress & patterns that have been part of your growth
- On the days when you’re feeling a bit more daunted or afraid, you can review your track record of tackling fear with specifics to bolster your confidence with REAL events from your own experience
As you strengthen your mental muscles around handling & utilizing fear to your advantage, it will help you more quickly Reclaim Your Life!